Assumptions vs. Real-life

For this post, I'm reflecting on what I have come across and discussed with a few peers in case it gets somewhere.

Let's say - in my head, I feel that people around me don't enjoy having me near them or that I'm annoying them, and I want to move away from them so that they have more space to find joy and not have me as a barrier to their peaceful lives. But sometimes, I wonder if I'm making up these thoughts, and that they do love me, but they don't know how to express it because they didn't grow up seeing it or learning about it.

Maybe I don't need to be too selfish in taking things too seriously because they are also still learning, and we all have different needs and challenges.

I wonder if I expect how I'd like them to be, and when they don't fit with that, I feel like I might have done something wrong. The more I write about this, the more it sounds like it's just my insecurities.

Great, noted. I will work on shifting my mindset to see if I'll feel better and if everyone will feel better. :)

I also recently came across a blogger, and I'm embarrassed that I could not remember who it was - it might have been Anna Akana, who said something along the line of how we have the power to change our mindset and assume good things. For example, have you tried assuming that everyone loves us and enjoys our company to see how we would react and live through our days? That's a great reflection exercise that I'm curious to try and see whether it'll change my mood and how I connect with others.